David, you are giving me advice because you want advice from me. Thereby completing the requirements of the Golden Rule. You are doing unto me like you want done to you. If you were just giving me this advice in order to find out what you need from yourself, I would be happy to bear your burdens so you could understand what you should do next. But... no.
You are the very reason I stopped accepting comments on my blogs. I can't afford to let you treat me this way or to use me for this purpose. There is no end to it. You won't listen to your inner voice, and instead try to use me (and others, especially your own sons) as your enabler to ignore it. Including the ulterior motive of deviously tricking your boys into moving back into your house with you at the expense of their own happiness.
You accuse me of not being your friend in order to blackmail me into following the dictates of your disrespected parent's rules of conscience. Apparently, you're too weak to abandon these second-hand roses out of false respect. Your parents were bleeding heart liberals, store-clerk musicians, and you vigorously claim to be a dyed-in-the-wool conservative who is totally supportive of genocide. How stupidly blind of you. No wonder your mother preferred death than to disclaiming you in public.
55 Jesus said, "Whoever does not hate father and mother cannot be my disciple, and whoever does not hate brothers and sisters, and carry the cross as I do, will not be worthy of me."
http://users.misericordia.edu//davies/thomas/Trans.htm
I refuse to let your conscience be my guide in the na-me of being an old friend. I don't enjoy hurting people constantly in this confrontational style in order to provide them with sexual stimuli. I wish I did. Masochists who don't know what they're asking for from me abound. The world is teeming with them. In that regard, you got serious competition from smarter, more devious, and endlessly more attractive actresses.
If my ignoring you in order to turn you back into yourself doesn't work, the consequences to me and to your children AND to your second ex-wife could be disastrous. If SHE managed to get through y'all's divorce without murdering herself, then the least you can do is man up for the good of the whole.